Why celebrity couples divorce

Yesterday, Halle Berry and Olivier Martinez announced they are calling it quits. They join the ranks of Gwen Stefani and Gavin Rossdale, Kaley Cuoco and Ryan Sweeting, even Kermit and Miss Piggy. And yes, they are all human beings like the rest of us but you can’t help but ask: Why do celebrity marriages break up?

Sex, money and communication are three biggest factors in a marriage. (Thank you Edwin Louis Cole). Problems with sex and communication I can understand. But when I think of celebrities, I automatically think money. Money can be a source of stress as it pertains to stability. If there is tension with money, this can lead to a lack of intimacy between husband and wife. What happens when you have money? When worrying about bills isn’t necessarily an issue? You think with a couple making millions of dollars, this would be the least of their concerns.

What do you think? Does it make sense?

Here’s the link to the article that sparked my interest. Happy reading!
Why all the celebrity divorces lately?

It’s been how long?

Eight years. That’s how long W and I have been together. And honestly, it doesn’t feel that long. W and I met in during our first semester in college through friends. If you had told us back then that we’d be happily married now, I would’ve laughed in your face. W thought I was stuck up (the nerve!) and I was fully immersed in my studies (when I wasn’t gallivanting around NYC). But somewhere along the line we became close friends. Real friends. The type that you have “what is life?” conversations with. We were all of a sudden doing everything together. Studying, grocery shopping, laundry. It was crazy! And then it hit me. I liked W. Liked liked him. And that was that.  We fell in love, got married and here we are! (sharing all of it with you :P) How did your love story begin?

Couples for Thought

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After watching an old episode of Oprah, I was inspired to write this. The Smith family was on Oprah to talk about their lives, both celebrity and personal. I was moved by the way the entire family presented themselves, especially as a unit. Everyone is expected to contribute to the family in some way. Everything they do is done to better the family unit. As a high school teacher, I appreciate the accountability that Will and Jada are teaching their children. In terms of their marriage, I also admire how they respect each other as equal partners. One thing they discussed about their marriage was the setting of goals. They said they frequently sit down and set goals for themselves and their family. These goals then give purpose to everything that they do. This resonated with me because this is something that Wesley and I have been doing since we began dating. Setting goals helps to establish us as a unit and keeps us on the same page with what is expected. While some of our goals are financial, not all of them are. And they shouldn’t be. We set personal goals for our relationship and (future) family as well.  From what I saw on Oprah, the Smith family seems like a solid, loving and inspired family. That’s why Will and Jada Smith are couple of the month.

Here’s the link to the Oprah interview:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_N3vFeR4g9M

Enjoy!

Ticking down (or up?) to marriage

“Are you married?” Is a question I hear often hear. It’s usually followed up by “Do you have children? Are you expecting?”  When the answer is no, I get looks of confusion and grief. Yes, I am young and yes I am married. No, I did not get married because I was pregnant. I married for love.
In society today, marrying for love seems like some far away concept that’s never been heard of. The thought of marriage today is seen as a prison sentence; it is a last resort. You would be throwing yourself into a pit of lions with T-bone steaks strapped to your back. And marrying at a “young age” makes it even worse. But why? Why is it that being married is seen more as an omen of death than one of new life?
When Wesley and I announced we were getting married, we received our fair share of backlash from family, friends and people we didn’t even know. 😮 “What’s the rush?” “How do you even know you’ll be together that long?” “Can you handle being MARRIED?!” Definitely not what we expected. We thought the world would be proud of two young people making this kind of decision. We were getting MARRIED, not MURDERING someone. With faith in each other and in God, we did it anyway. And here we are two years later, enjoying every minute of it.
Now do we recommend everyone our age going out and getting hitched? Heck no! Wes and I were mature enough and at a place in our lives where we could make that kind of decision.  If a person isn’t fully ready (emotionally, mentally, spiritually and financially), it’ll be a tough road going.
Thoughts?

Love. Literally.

Love (v.): ” To hold dear: cherish; to like or desire actively: take pleasure in; to thrive in”

(Merriam-Webster, 2013)

When we hear love, we think of the more obvious, easy parts of love. Things like hugs and kisses, gifts, romance. But in its true definition, love is more than these basic things.  Love is a passionate commitment.  It’s an active process that encompasses many things; sacrifice,compromise and dedication among other things.  In order to be in love and stay that way, you have to do what it says.

Love literally.

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