“Are you married?” Is a question I hear often hear. It’s usually followed up by “Do you have children? Are you expecting?” When the answer is no, I get looks of confusion and grief. Yes, I am young and yes I am married. No, I did not get married because I was pregnant. I married for love.
In society today, marrying for love seems like some far away concept that’s never been heard of. The thought of marriage today is seen as a prison sentence; it is a last resort. You would be throwing yourself into a pit of lions with T-bone steaks strapped to your back. And marrying at a “young age” makes it even worse. But why? Why is it that being married is seen more as an omen of death than one of new life?
When Wesley and I announced we were getting married, we received our fair share of backlash from family, friends and people we didn’t even know. 😮 “What’s the rush?” “How do you even know you’ll be together that long?” “Can you handle being MARRIED?!” Definitely not what we expected. We thought the world would be proud of two young people making this kind of decision. We were getting MARRIED, not MURDERING someone. With faith in each other and in God, we did it anyway. And here we are two years later, enjoying every minute of it.
Now do we recommend everyone our age going out and getting hitched? Heck no! Wes and I were mature enough and at a place in our lives where we could make that kind of decision. If a person isn’t fully ready (emotionally, mentally, spiritually and financially), it’ll be a tough road going.